Re: 1979 Mariner 140 HP
OK, I'd bet you're having a problem with the preload on the shifting mechanism. Sometimes when you pull the lower unit down, it'll just slide back up lickity-split.
Other times, if there's a lot of preload on the shifter cable, as soon as you drop the lower unit the shift cable pushes the shifting arm about 1/2-tooth out-of-alignment with the lower unit's shift shaft. So, when you attempt to reinstall the lower unit, the shift shaft won't engage into the upper shift rod.
The only thing to do in that case is to undo the shift cable from the shift arm, then you can jiggle the shift arm a wee bit fore and aft until the shift rod lines up perfectly with the shift shaft.
You'll have to undo the throttle cable as well, to get at the shift cable. There is a black plastic "lock" at the front of the 'shift guide' assy, undo this to release the cables from the rack. The cable ends each have a 7/16" nut securing them to their respective arm.
Note: it's very important to know what gear the lower unit's in, and that the shift shaft is in the correct position for reassembly.
Sounds like you're in Fwd, since you're turning the prop and moving the crankshaft as well. Or maybe you're in Reverse.
I'll assume you're in Fwd since that's most common. You have to make sure the L/U shift shaft is rotated as far CCW as possible and still be in Fwd gear. In other words, it's just about to shift to Neutral.
There's about 270 degrees of free play in the rotation of the shift shaft when you're in Fwd. But only one place where it'll shift right once you're put it all back together.
If you have any doubt as to where the shift shaft is, just grab hold of the splines with a pair of Vise Grips (carefully and cushion them with tape or a shop rag so you don't damage the splines). If you're in Fwd gear, turn the shift shaft CCW until you get resistance, further CCW rotation gets you to Neutral. Then turn the shift shaft Clockwise only enough to 'pop' back to Fwd gear and leave the shift shaft in that position.
The shift arm in the powerhead should be just about all the way to the front of the motor for Fwd gear. And all the way aft for Reverse, with Neutral somewhere in between.
So, with the L/U correctly shifted to Fwd gear, and the shift arm properly positioned, you should be able to reinstall the L/U. Having your friend help with the shift arm, and turning the flywheel until driveshaft engages crankshaft.
Well, this is what works for me when I have a cranky one, I like the ones that slide back together lickity-split much better!
I expect you'll just be glad to get it all back together and shifting well !
HTH & G'luck........ed