Re: Back on line
Dont want to sound harsh here Mayfloat, That kid is going to find out just how untouchable he is once he turns 18. He is headed for the real jail with an attitude like that. <br /><br />I watched my best friend go through the same thing with his boy. Mom and Pop bailed him out of trouble every time, cost them a fortune in Lawyer fees, They were afraid to leave the house for fear he would do something stupid or steal some thing and sell it. I always thought they were way to good to him through this time, I still think that. Once the kid was an adult Mom and Pop could not keep him out of the jail, He spent a year locked up 400 miles from home. What a change that made in him. That kid is on the straight and narrow these days. I was most impressed with him this past fall when his mother ( a very dear friend of ours) was killed in a motorcycle accident. Because his Pop was laid up in the hospital. That boy (man) sucked it up and took care of everything from funeral arraingements to buying a burial plot, making all the tough phone calls. I would never in a million years thought I would see this from this kid. It just goes to show that there is hope no matter how bad things get. I know for sure he is sorry for all the hell he put his mother through, but now its too late to make things right with her.<br /><br />I think a good dose of being on his own when he is 18 will teach your boy some hard life lessons.<br /> <br /> Another little story.(sorry for being long winded)<br /><br />When my daughter was was 14 she got in with a bad crowd. She got into some scrapes with mom and I. She was smoking a lot of pot for a kid her age. She got caught at a party at her friends place drinking malt liquer. The cops picked all the kids up and we had to go get em. She was sick as a dog from the stuff. The next day I had her bring all those rap CD's out to the garage and handed her a 4 pound hammer and made her smash them all to bits. She cried all day after that.Tons of trouble followed. Everything from stuff missing in the house to getting in scrapes with the neighbors, Flunking out of school. The final straw came when she decided not to come home one night. We were worried sick. Seems she stayed at her girlfriends and "forgot to call" home.
When we caught up with her she is in a town 40 miles away. Well I wasted no time, I called the airline and had a ticket for her to go to Colorado that day. I sent her to my brother inlaws place out there. He lives on the top of a mountain at 12,000 feet. Nothing but aspens, pines, bears and elk. Miles to the the nearest paved road. I almost cried myself when I saw her walk through that gate to get on the plane. She would not even talk to me. I left her out there for a solid month, the wife flew in and spent the last two weeks with her, my bro inlaw, and sis inlaw. The reports coming from my wife during her stay sounded real good. When she finally came home she was a changed person, told me how much she loved all of us and that she had the time to reflect on her behaveour(sp)when she was acting up. Told me it was the best thing I could have ever done, she realized how stupid it was to go along with the crowd and realized how good mom and I were to her all these years. Thats was five years ago now, she never looked back, I am so proud of her now I can not even say. We often sit around and have a good laugh at the whole thing now. It just seems that time away from the comforts of home can do a lot to change a young persons attitude about things.
