Still sounds to me like the gimbal bearing has not been set to aim properly at the couple. Before sticking the alignment bar in, eyeball the bearing. It is usually pretty easy to see if it is very far off - goal is to have it inline perfectly to the coupler. If it isn't, slide the bar in and if the bearing is too tight for a thump with your hand to move it, use a dead blow hammer or even a 2 pound hammer. Once close enough to get the bar into the coupler, get the hammer out again and give the bar end a solid thump up, down, left and right. That should align it with the coupler making your alignment task a lot easier.