Re: gasket opinions?
Unfortunately, I do not think there is an easy answer to that question. Most aftermarket gaskets I have seen do seem to be as good as OEM. I did see a markedly better Mercruiser Exhaust riser gasket (silver in color), versus the green Sierra gasket. Probably both work just as well when risers and mannys are new, but when they get some rust (they are are cast iron, after all), the Mercruiser gasket is much better, as it is coated with some kind of sealer and a bit thicker.
There may be other examples of this, that I have not run into.