Kinda Bummed rant lol

[zach103]

Just wanted to make a little rant.. been kinda bummed out lately all the guys i used to be close with all go to the big university here in ct and i go to a comm college.. now i have one friend that im close to that just moved home and i have friends from school.. I dont like the whole dorm/college life.. but i enjoy a party every so often.. well one of them had a party this weekend and i wasn't invited.. now im not just bummed i guess cuz they invited a bunch of ppl.. like i said just ranting.. wondering how many of your friends now have been with you since high school.. or did most of you meet friends thru work or parenting??

Thanks for listening lol:facepalm:

 

[aspeck]

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High School friends leave pretty quickly. By my 10th High School Reunion there was only 1 friend that I was still close with. Now that I am going on a lot more years than that, my closest circle of friends are all "after high school" friends. In fact, a couple of my closest friends now were in High School with me, but I didn't really know they existed then (and it was a small High School with a graduating class of just over 200).

So don't sweat it too much. As you and your friends mature there will be a parting of ways in most cases and you will gain closer friends that you have more in common with than just a good party.

 

[waterinthefuel]

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High School friends leave pretty quickly. By my 10th High School Reunion there was only 1 friend that I was still close with. Now that I am going on a lot more years than that, my closest circle of friends are all "after high school" friends. In fact, a couple of my closest friends now were in High School with me, but I didn't really know they existed then (and it was a small High School with a graduating class of just over 200).

So don't sweat it too much. As you and your friends mature there will be a parting of ways in most cases and you will gain closer friends that you have more in common with than just a good party.

I agree with that. I don't even have any college friends anymore. We've all gone our separate ways and done our separate things. Some moved away, some died, some disappeared without a trace. All of my friends I have no are from either old jobs post-college or from the cajun dancing group I'm a part of, and that definitely came up after I graduated college.

Eventually you'll get past the need to party and actually want to make something of yourself. The friends you make during that period of time are the right ones to keep.

 

[tswiczko]

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I have one or two people I keep in touch with from high school. Have missed all my reunions to date, the next one is 30 years and I do not intend to goto that one either.

I am attending school now myself, and do not get invited to parties, it would be too much like having a parent at the party.

I've found over the years that I don't have many friends because I would not get to spend as much time with my family(my wife wants me to get a friend soooo baadd :facepalm.

You don't need a lot of friends just one that you want to spend all your time with, just make sure they can stand having you around that much

Relax and have fun. It doesn't matter where your friends come from what matters is that they are there when you need them.

 

[eaglejim]

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I have one friend from HS that I keep in touch with and come to think of it my very close friend circle is very small my wife(34 years),friend of HS (35years) friend here in Ga (31 years)all the rest are ships passing in the channel

 

[sasto]

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I'm with aspeck and waterinthefuel. Some of my best times are with new friends. I have a couple old friends (I'm 52, 20 years is an old friend) and we would do anything for each other or the other's family. New ones just the same, treasure them. Seems to me like friendships made in school didn't last.

That's my take Zach, looks like a path to higher grounds (least a different adventure) to me, take it. Someday you will look back.......with pride.

Good luck our friend!

PS...I am my best friend.

 

[rbh]

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At lunch, a high school buddy brought up a pizza we ate and BS'ed till he had to go back to work, ten minutes ago my other buddy just left after a few TGIF bevvys.
I do not have many good old friends, and the ones that I do have I cherrish as we have know each other for a long time and we have trusted each other with our problems and issues for years.

Not alot of true friends, lots of aquatances/buddies, there is a difference.

 

[WIMUSKY]

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I'm with Sasto. My "good" friends are 15 -20+ years older than me and I've known them for the same amount of time. Sasto and me are around the same age. For some reason I've always had older friends all thru life. Not sure why it worked out that way, but, glad it did. Only really had 1 good bud in HS. He's been out in CA for quite awhile. Talked to him the last time which was about 20 years ago.

 

[WIMUSKY]

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In fact, a couple of my closest friends now were in High School with me, but I didn't really know they existed then (and it was a small High School with a graduating class of just over 200).

Had to comment Aspeck. Your graduating class was huge. Mine was 56! My daughter's will be less than 40....

 

[rbh]

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At lunch, a high school buddy brought up a pizza we ate and BS'ed till he had to go back to work, ten minutes ago my other buddy just left after a few TGIF bevvys.
I do not have many good old friends, and the ones that I do have I cherrish as we have know each other for a long time and we have trusted each other with our problems and issues for years.

Not alot of true friends, lots of aquatances/buddies, there is a difference.

Hey, did I mentioned we all trained together in the local reserve regiment.

 

[sasto]

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Ohhhh..... Must be something in the air tonite. I'm in the doghouse now. Something to do with money. My job? Maybe the toilet seat? Who knows? Always have to remind myself "she is a woman" May get in the 50's tonite. Y'all pray for me.

 

[DaNinja]

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I lost touch with my my high school and college friends when I joined the U.S. Army.
My army friends disappeared when I retired from the U.S. Army.

You just have to make new friends as your journey continues.

 

[kenmyfam]

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Most high school friends get more distant as time passes. People have different career paths and lifestyles and move in many different directions.
My thoughts.

 

[aspeck]

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Ohhhh..... Must be something in the air tonite. I'm in the doghouse now. Something to do with money. My job? Maybe the toilet seat? Who knows? Always have to remind myself "she is a woman" May get in the 50's tonite. Y'all pray for me.

Whatever it was, it was ALL YOUR FAULT! Now suck it up and get in there and apologize for being the jerk you are! Quick run out and get some chocolates or something, that MIGHT help! 50's tonight ... your gonna freeze if you don't get some forgiveness!

 

[sasto]

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Whatever it was, it was ALL YOUR FAULT! Now suck it up and get in there and apologize for being the jerk you are! Quick run out and get some chocolates or something, that MIGHT help! 50's tonight ... your gonna freeze if you don't get some forgiveness!

Thanks aspeck, we straightened it out.......I will never leave the toilet seat up again. It will stay down all the time now.... :facepalm: No matter what my business is..I will never work on Valentines day.. LOL

I'm warm again......in the other doghouse...... least this one is inside.

Good'ay....

 

[eaglejim]

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Had to comment Aspeck. Your graduating class was huge. Mine was 56! My daughter's will be less than 40....

How about a graduating class of 992

 

[royal0014]

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I have contact with a select few of my H.S. friends, but only because my wife has kept up with them (yep, I married my H.S. Sweetheart, 8 yrs after graduation). Have lost contact with most of my other friends. Never been real social anyway....

Our grad. class was over 200. 20th reunion coming up soon, don't care to go. Most of the people involved were the preppy/rich types that shunned us then.

Funny, and very loooong story, our class marched on City Hall the day before graduation. :facepalm: Got my mug on the front page of the local paper. I almost didn't get to walk because of it. Only a good lie by my future wife saved my bacon....

Ahh, memories.....


<<)))(((>>

 

[Chris-R]

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I went down a similar path as yours after high school. I went to the Community College of Rhode Island (ccri). All my friends either went away to a 4 year college or into the military. My circle of friends disappeared overnight. CCRI was not the greatest place to make new friends. No incoming freshmen from my small town went there except me. Everyone who was at ccri already had friends there. It took a while to make new friends so I took the bull by the horns and ran for student senate and was elected (somehow as I didn't know anyone). I made a lot of new friends in student government and still stay in touch with a few of them after all these years. What I'm saying is that you need to join some clubs, student government, etc. at your community college and you will make friends. Your high school friends who went on to a 4 year school will most likely drift away. Many acquire a jaded view of community colleges and those, like us, who attend. There's a little snobbery involved. In my case, after graduating from ccri, I went on and earned my BS from Providence College. After that, I continued and earned a doctorate from New England School of Law in Boston. Some of those kids with the jaded view of community colleges are now my clients. It's funny how things work out sometimes. Bottom line, go join some clubs or get into student government at your community college NOW. Don't wait.

 

[Bob_VT]

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I lost touch with my my high school and college friends when I joined the U.S. Army.
My army friends disappeared when I retired from the U.S. Army.

You just have to make new friends as your journey continues.

Yes, very tough one. In the service we forged bonds that were incredible but often vanished with every change of duty assignment These were bonds that were so strong we would be willing to risk our lives for these people. Facebook, classmates, and military websites help but are really not the real deal.

 

[waterinthefuel]

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I know ya'll may laugh at me for this, but my first girlfriend was in 4th grade. While we of course did nothing sexual and didn't even kiss, we held hands, and were a "couple" for the entire school year and only broke up because I moved away. Actually, we never formally broke up because I moved during the summer and never got a chance to talk to her.

Fast forward 10 years. I run into someone on yahoo who knows her. I tried getting in touch with her to no avail. But it did bring back the memories I had of doing stuff with her and how much I cared for her, even at 9.

Well, with the help of google, I found a personals page of her. I hadn't seen her in 22 years, and I'll be darn, I would have recognized her had we passed in the hall, she still has those cheeks and eyes she had at 9! I found out she works at a hotel as office manager. I emailed her hotel and asked her to email me back, and got no reply. I may or may not try again later, but I can say that she is one person from my grade school days that I still care about and I always wished her the best and hoped she found someone nice, as she deserved it.

Yea I know, sounds foolish to say about a girl you knew at 9yo, but I haven't had the same feelings for any girl yet since her. I try, but the round peg doesn't fit into the square hole. I've always thought about her. Just knowing shes alive and well and healthy is really all the reassurance I need.

Take care Heather. You are a wonderful girl, you were back in 1989, and you are now. I enjoyed all the activities we participated in together. I will take those precious and innocent memories to my grave with me.