Neighbor kids grrrrrrr (long rant)

[Twidget]

I need some advice about the neighbors kids, or the neighbor himself. Four years ago, my neighbor moved in. At first I was very happy, he has kids about my sons age. They are the only kids in the entire neighborhood that are my sons age. My son is 9, he has a boy 13, boy 9 and girl 7.<br /><br />This is the way things break down. Thirteen year old comes over, just to play on my sons computer. Nine year old, lies, cheats, steal and breaks things constantly. Seven year old is destructive, always breaking something.<br /><br />As I said, thirteen year old only wants to play my sons computer. When told he has to actually let my son have a turn, he leaves.<br /><br />The 9 year old boy, lies, cheats, steals and is destructive. I am not exaggerating. My son searches his pockets and socks before he leaves the house.<br /><br />The seven year old girl terrorizes our dog and destroys things.<br /><br />I have tried talking to their Dad. He calls lying 'avoiding the truth' and says, 'I just fix what they break". He has evidently rehung doors and replaced windows in his house. <br /><br />It is a small thing, but it is the straw that broke the camels back with me. I planted six rose of sharons in the back yard. The girl didnt like where I put one, so she pulled it up. <br /><br />I am at my wits end on this. They are literally the only kids in the neighborhood, so it seems to be them or no one. Any advice would really be appreciated. Short of murder that is.

 

[heycods]

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Time to move on up in the world, dont you feel the need for a new house. Things there are only gona get worse. IMHO

 

[Bondo]

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A BIG Fence........<br /><br />And,..... Find Your Boy some New Friends,..... YMCA,.. Boy Scouts,.. Sports,.. WhatEver........

 

[Twidget]

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Time to move on up in the world, dont you feel the need for a new house. Things there are only gona get worse. IMHO

It is a new house. I had the first house on the block, fifth in the neighborhood. We moved from the old neighborhood to hopefully get him around kids his age. All the kids here are 5 or so years older or younger than he.

 

[ob]

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May God help you. He never gives you more than you can bear. Been there,done that,got the t-shirt and the coffee mug.Going for the set of dishes currently.

 

[heycods]

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Originally posted by Twidget:<br />

Time to move on up in the world, dont you feel the need for a new house. Things there are only gona get worse. IMHO

It is a new house. I had the first house on the block, fifth in the neighborhood. We moved from the old neighborhood to hopefully get him around kids his age. All the kids here are 5 or so years older or younger than he.

I was kinda in your boat back in 78, we moved to the country, I mean country 4mi to nearest neighbor. + I had two boys 2 years apart, they could fish hunt and run amuck with verry little fear of getting into mischief, It cured my problems with the neighbor hood punks. It would be hard for you to do in your area, so I dont have the answer for you. Wish you the best of luck.

 

[CN Spots]

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Try talking to his kids. (sounds like he don't) Tell 'em they can't come over anymore if they don't straighten up.<br /><br />As far as the 13 year old goes, as ob said, may God help you. Watch him like he was a stray pit bull carrying a gun. If he ain't gone through "the change" already, he's about to and when he does, whooo boy!<br /><br />I feel your pain. Got the same problems here. I had to become the chrotchity olefart of the 'hood, but most of them tend to mind now. (When I'm around anyway)<br /><br /><br />old man spots

 

[roscoe]

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Kick em out, <br />not welcome any more, <br />go away, <br />computer off limits, <br />play at your house, <br />call the cops if you come over here.<br />Send them a bill for the damages and the new plants !!!!!<br />Get rid of those kids. <br />What are they doing inside the house anyways?<br />You live in the south, its warm enough to play outside yearround.<br /><br />Accepting their behavior is not acceptable to you and is not good for your boy.<br /><br />Drop the hammer.<br />Slam the door.<br />Get a restraining order.<br />Twist an ear.<br />Give a wedgy, all the way back to their yard !!<br /><br />My mom did it. It was consistent with my upbringing and she didn't want any bad examples hanging around.<br />She even had the 13 year old neighborhood bully picking rocks out of our lawn, and all his friends walked by and saw him <br /><br />Now, if you want to hear what I really think, post your email and I will send you the adult version.<br /><br />Do we need to call the NANNY 911 number and give YOU a lesson ??? <br /><br />Seriously, those kids have to be OUT OF YOUR YARD !!<br />And I'm serious about sending him a bill too.<br /><br />Can't believe you put up with this crap for 4 years.

 

[QC]

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I think I feel differently than most here. We have had a similar situation and it extended to the parents too. We did move, so did they, across the street . . .<br /><br />I've decided (and there is a whole lot more to this story) that we can be a positive influence in all of their lives and that by knowing that, we have to . . . Sounds pretty naive and cutesy, but I am serious. We have made a difference, and I also use their failures to help teach my kids things. Have I been sorry? Yeah sometimes, but if you are kinda stuck with the situation, I am not sure what else could end positively.

 

[one more cast]

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My Grandma was only a tiny little woman but when she grabbed me by the ear.... seriously, have a sit down talk with the neighbor kids and tell them what you expect of them.

 

[KaGee]

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Just don't shoot them, like that that poor old SOB did here in Ohio about 10 days back.

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Tell them the computer if off limits, that solves the 13 yr old, he wont come around any more.<br /><br />My wife pretty much wont let any kids in the house period. She had a watch come up missing and we think it was the 10 yr old girl next door. We have since moved but still do more kids in the house.<br /><br />Get them to play outside. Or at the destructo families house.<br /><br />Ken

 

[SpinnerBait_Nut]

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What roscoe said works for me.<br />If the father/guardian/whatever don't care about this crap at his house, that is his business, but when they destroy stuff at your house, then that is your business and they would get a bill for the damages.

 

[MYTJC]

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I beleive some tuff decsions have to be made. Listen to your gut and remember your morals and values for your family and home. Stepping up and being honest with those kids might be a reality check. Use kinds words and have faith in the Lord that these kids see your message. If they dont respect how you raise your kids in your house, Then god bless them and see them on there way and be firm!! They need to know where you stand. I'm sure your kids are great examples to learn from and maybe they need someone to reach out to them.....Looks like their parents arent being good role models......God Bless you and remember to pray for those kids. <br /><br />Adjusting your approach<br />+++++++++++++++++++<br /><br />Is what you're doing now getting you where you want to be? If <br />not, then it's time for some changes.<br /><br />Yes, change can be frightening and difficult. Yet it is <br />immensely more desirable than continuing to put your effort <br />into going where you don't want to go.<br /><br />Most likely, some things you're now doing are working and <br />some things are not. It will pay you enormously to figure <br />out which are which.<br /><br />Achievement is a moving target, and conditions are <br />constantly changing. So regularly adjusting your approach is <br />necessary to a successful life.<br /><br />Even the most skillful captain must make adjustments in the <br />ship's course along the way. An important part of reaching <br />your destination is recognizing when you've strayed off the path and then finding a way to get back on it.<br /><br />So take a good look at where you're headed, honestly, <br />objectively, and with the intention of making whatever <br />adjustments are necessary. Keep yourself pointed toward the goal, and your actions will surely take you there.

 

[SpinnerBait_Nut]

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Sidenote:<br />Never had any boys, all mine were girls.<br />They had sleepovers, partys etc and I had a few standing rules that they all knew.<br /><br />You smoke in the house, your gone.<br />You try to sneak any alcohol in my house, your gone.<br />You break anything, your gone.<br />Went pretty well, nothing broke and I did not have to send anyone home.

 

[Twidget]

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All good advice. Thanks everyone.<br /><br />Back around Christmas, The nine year old got caught stealing, again/still. I kicked him out of the house for two months. I think he is slowly getting the message. He has tried to be on his good behaviour since letting him back in. <br /><br />That and I did a mean thing. My son is big, 9 years old, 5 feet tall and about 100 pounds that is all solid boy. The neighbors kid likes to start things and start yelling so that he is saved before anything can happen to him. One day, I was working in the garage and heard the beginning of the taunting of my son and knew what was coming. I went in the house for 'something' I needed. Needless to say, the neighbor kid got in his pinch and yelled. No one rescued him this time. He hasnt tried that since. <br /><br />I put my office(with the computers) off limits to all kids except mine. That did solve the 13 year old problem.<br /><br />After I calmed down last night, I told my son that the only one from next door allowed in the house was the nine year old. He seems to be coming around finally. The little girl is Daddy's princess that can do no wrong, so she isnt allowed at all. If you say somehting she doesnt like, she just glares.<br /><br />Hopefully this will at least slow things down. Although my son still pats down the 9 year old whenever he leaves.

 

[MYTJC]

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Sounds like you got things under control Twidget.

 

[oddjob]

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Hopefully this will at least slow things down. Although my son still pats down the 9 year old whenever he leaves.

lol<br /><br /><br />I agree with roscoe, but I would hate to be his neighbor..

 

[bootle]

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Take em fishing and come back alone