what do you think

[miloman]

A while back I asked you guys about my brother and the chicky on the side. He wanted me to lie all the way for his stupidity. Well hes busted and now my sis in law who I think is great is blaming me for not telling we have a fam pow wow today how do I handle this HELP

 

[FLATHEAD]

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I guess it depends, Did you lie to her about it or was it a if you dont ask I wont tell deal. If you lied then I figure you got take your lumps and ask for forgivness. The bottom line is to not let her blame you for the affair. Your in a bad spot my friend. I think you need to take your brother out behind the woodshed and kick his a$$ for puttin you on the spot for his stupidity.<br /><br />Hows the tourny's treatin ya Milo?

 

[OBJ]

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Hey miloman.....<br /><br />My opinion....be open, honest and candid. Don't hold back. Let them know how you feel about the situation. Family situations like these are dicey at best and tend to bring hard feelings. But honesty pays in the long run. My $02.

 

[muskyone]

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show her your original post then she'll know how the affair really Affected you but that could get you in deeper cuse you knew about it and did'nt say anything wow bros can be a pain good luck and remember nothing like the wrath of a scorned women

 

[SpinnerBait_Nut]

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milo ol bud, you will have to come clean and try to get her to understand your side of it.<br /><br />You were caught in the middle between her and your brother.<br /><br />Just try to get her to see your side of it and maybe, if she has a level head, she will understand.<br /><br />For sure your brother put you in a bad spot for a little pleasure that I'm sure now, he doesn't think was all that good.<br /><br />They will have a long road to recover from this if they want to and once again I'm sure one if not both of them will be calling on you for advice and/or support.<br /><br />Don't know what else to tell you friend.<br />Good luck and we hope for the best.

 

[JB]

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Hi, Miloman.<br /><br />I agree with our buds. Tell it like it was.<br /><br />You did the right thing and owe nobody any apologies.

 

[sony2001]

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Miloman your brother's affair is not the problem. Don't get hung up on the loss of fidelity but encourage him to express what is the problem between them that caused his attentions to go else where. It was a call for help. I bet she is a great gal but she is not picking up on what is bothering him, because he has CLAMMED UP.

 

[miloman]

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what you said is what Im doing. Im telling her that regardless for the respect I have for her it is not my business to tell her things hes up to or vice versa. I want to reserve my opinion and let the two of them work it out. Privatley I will give him a kick in the A(* but between my father and her I might have to get in line. Finally I will tell them please feel free to discuss anything with me but never ever have me a party to deciet The wife is very proud of me for the way I have behaved so I guess its time for a rewaRD

 

[miloman]

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well I did it I was confronted and I told it like it was yes I was aware no I wont rat out my brother no I was not part of the deciet nor will I ever be part of the deciet