Re: Pat
am humbled to reply to all here, not sure how..so here goes.......first is that i have learned humility is something i have ignored. this characteristic is most important for i have both in my personal family life and on this iboats board with my friends and members here displayed an arrogance, a lack of consideration as well as patience and respect that i claim to promote in my signature.<br /><br />humility.......very important quality...some husbands figure that i did a hard days work, gonna have a beer, chill, let me do my thing. the expectation is that though that attitude and want may be real, your family expects more. you as the husband or wife may believe that she or he stays at home running the show, a job that you state on the surface is hard, but dismiss as less of an obligation than your daily grind of earning the bucks to float the household boat. some like me distance themselves from the family due to the above. the wife or husband bond more with the kids.....set the other aside as stressed, but necessary to the family. soon, you are not a close part of the family......detached. <br /><br />that describes me. i did not copy past this.....my thoughts. been feeling the detachment from my loved ones for a couple years. kids seem to notice this less, especially younger kids like mine. me and my bride do feel this gradual separation as we are not as intimate and "cognizant" of each other.<br /><br />our intimate relationship suffers as well. initial thought is kids needs are priority. i know now that time set aside for us was much more vital to keep our marriage together. hard to do, and recognize that. we did not.<br /><br />a final thought is that the primary root issues are..."you drink too much, never spend enough time with us".......and "you spend too much, we are always in cc debt at the end of the year".<br /><br />much more deeper issues, a child's adha for example, but all here, please listen to your inner ear and intuition for your families needs.......dern, this sucks......
