Advice from my iboats friends

[SuperNova]

Re: Advice from my iboats friends

If it helps you at all, carphunter, I am also 39 and all the things you typed could have come straight from my head. I feel EXACTLY the same way you do. LOL World is smaller than we all think and we are all alot more alike than we know. I mean I have three girls and they are younger than your boys, but other than that, your story is EXACTLY identical to mine. Talked to my doc and he wants me to see a specialist, but I just keep thinking I'm weak and just feeling sorry for myself and that I'll just get over it.

One of the big things I have found helps is to stop looking at all the could'ves and should'ves and stop focusing on your regrets. Start focusing on what you have and the many ways you've been blessed.
Look around at the people who are less fortunate than yourself. Think about the people who are struggling to put food on the table for their kids. The people who are working 12-14 hours a day for 5 or 6 bucks an hour. The people with worse problems than a few regrets. The people drowning in debt with no relief in sight. This doesn't magically make it all better, but it helps get through the worst of it. Sorry I can't help more than that, but I'm kinda going through a down phase right now, myself.

Remember, Heath Ledger had it all, and look at him now. So more money, more fame and youth is not the real answer, either.
--
Stan

 

[Jerico]

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In 3 days it will be 3 years ago that my grandson died. I went through the depression, a lot of doubts, a ton of questions, I should have, could have, would have's, and my business went into the tank. The 3 people who helped the most and what I learned:

1 - My wife. When I needed her and even when I didn't want her to be, she was always there.

2 - My doctor. The depression was a chemical imbalance in my brain. A few months of a little pill and it was under control.

3 - My therapist. Decisions I made where based on the best information available at the time. Second guessing after the fact doesn't help. There are things you can change. Take them, deal with them, and move forward. There are things you can't change. Accept them, learn from them, and move forward. Lastly, the sun will go down tonight and come up tomorrow. As hard as things are to take sometimes, time still marches forward.

Finally, I learned to stop once in a while and enjoy life. That's where my boats come in, and why they are named 'Break Time' and 'No Regrets'.

My best suggestion: Make the time to stop now and then, enjoy life, enjoy your family, and remind yourself what truely matters.

Good luck, and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Carphunter]

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Just an update for anyone interested. Got back from the Doc today, and had a really good conversation with him. He at least made me feel like I'm not so alone in some of this garbage I've been going through. He says this is not that uncommon. He thinks that sometimes this stuff is hereditary, which might explain alot. Anyway, he has prescribed some "happy pills" as a start, and he wants to see me in a month. ..........Just hope these pills aren't the equivalent of being neutered.

Thanks to all for the advice, it is very much appreciated.

(Tyme2fish, you have a PM).​

 

[Limited-Time]

Re: Advice from my iboats friends

Just an update for anyone interested. Got back from the Doc today, and had a really good conversation with him. He at least made me feel like I'm not so alone in some of this garbage I've been going through. He says this is not that uncommon. He thinks that sometimes this stuff is hereditary, which might explain alot. Anyway, he has prescribed some "happy pills" as a start, and he wants to see me in a month. ..........Just hope these pills aren't the equivalent of being neutered.

Thanks to all for the advice, it is very much appreciated.

(Tyme2fish, you have a PM).​

There's a step in the right direction. Hope it all works out for you, and your life gets back on the right track.

 

[aspeck]

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Keep us posted on how things are going... will keep you in the aspeck family prayers.

 

[SS MAYFLOAT]

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What has helped me in the past with the stress/depression was a few key things I learned from respected elders that I visit.

Use what you have learned along the way in the past

Live for today

Think for tomorrow

When you start to worry, for that reason your frontal lobe of your brain slows down or stops. This area is used for planning, scheduling, and setting goals. Depression triggers another part of the brain that becomes more active that focuses on your worries. The medication and therapy helps re-activate your brain back into its normal pattern.

I'm in my 50's and still get the same thoughts in my head as well. I just remind my self that things could be worse, be thankful in these times of having one of the few jobs available, and (most important) how wonderful it is to have a supporting family waiting for you at home.

I have come to realize that the phrase "Pursuit of Happiness" means that we will always be chasing after happiness.

Good Luck Carpy and hope things get back to normal or "Better" for you...........SS