Aging not so Fun

[captharv]

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Aging ain't so bad if you consider the alternative.
I am 62, and an unemployed Electronics Engineer Associate.
I don't the the past bother me. I just worry about the future, but I don't let it consume me.

Most of the 50-60 yr old men cope by having a second childhood. I am still on my first....


There is nothing wrong in getting some help.

Just remember this:
Loosing you memory is the second sign of getting older age; I forgot what the first is...

 

[cougar1985]

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just talked about this the other day.there is no bussiness that will not survive without me or you!what happened in the past is still THE PAST!look foward,take that damn rearview mirror off ,we dont need no stinking mirrors!enjoy life ,it comes to an end all too soon my friend.

 

[BoatBuoy]

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I know what you're going through, DC. I've been through it and in some ways I'm still going through some of it - wistful thinking of times, friends, family past. We begin to take note of how many folks our age have passed. We remember the good times and long for more. However, I've perfected the art of compartmentalization. Whenever I begin to think of things that make me sad or despondent, I move to something that makes me happy - friends, family, hobbies, etc. (mostly hobbies). I visit someone, or go do a task that needs done, or go play with one of my toys. I immerse myself in that and don't let my mind wander. There a lot of truth in the old saying that an idle mind is the devil's workshop. Stay busy; cruise the internet in an area of interest to you; do something, anything, that demands thought.

Another thing that I think we go through which causes some melancholy is when we reach a certain age the realization that so many of our dreams and aspirations that we have embraced most of our lives, will never come to fruition. A part of the depression happens when we actually realize that, barring winning the lottery, we will never really have that big home, or that big boat, or that exotic car, or visit those far away, exotic lands. When that passes, and in time it will, you begin to value what you do have and become satisfied with your blessings. At that point you have reached yet another level of maturity, and quite a wise one too.

 

[jonesg]

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Sinking into the morass of self pity is a recipe for constant misery.
I suffered major depression all my life, no wonder I didn't suspoect anything as I'd carried since childhood so I didn't know anything else to compare it to.
Tried different meds and good therapy but it only relieved symptoms and i knew something was still not right.
I'd wake up in the middle of the night and look at the ceiling wondering "whats wrong with me"

Well I found out what was missing and have never looked back, I blew past 50 without even noticing, I think I'm 57 now, don't care.

Depression is a catch all medical term, its for insurance purposes when docs make a diagnosis, this my old shrink told me.
But its a mix of lots of other things, in a nutshell I found it to be anger turned inward, there was no self defense when self was doing the attacking.
I was causing it without knowing I was doing it.

There is no intellectual solution, find the cause and it just morphs into different causes. Its phsycho-elastic because its a part of the mind doing it , ego "thinks" it will die if its not in control.

As a man thinks, so shall he be.
And whatever a man puts first in his life, wherever he puts his ultimate reliance in life, that is his God.

 

[JB]

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Here are some blessings you can count right now, Cruiser:

You might not get up three times a night to pee.

You don't have the counter in the bath cluttered up with prescriptions for heart disease (3), diabetes (1, plus insulin and testing supplies), osteoporosis (1); vitamin and nutrient supplements (5) and a checklist reminding you what to take how much of, when.

You don't need to stab yourself several times a day to measure how bad of a boy you have been with your diet (severe punishment for years of eating as much as you want of what you want).

You are probably allowed to eat real food that tastes good, keylime pie, M&M Peanuts and Snickers bars without getting out a @#$%^& gonkulator to gonkulate how many calories, grams of carbohydrates and fats you have consumed (or plan to consume).

Those things will come in time but you will have developed appreciation for the wonderful people you have known, the great adventures you have shared, the wonderful people still in your life that love you and don't give a flip about whatever you think of as failures.

Those burdens of aging will seem pretty petty compared to the great blessings of your life.

 

[jonesg]

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Gratitude is attitude.

Theres a video BBC documentry on Youtube, Dangerous Knowledge.
Its about the 4 greatest mathematicians who worked on the same problem, this problem, in turns, either killed them or drove them insane.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cw-zNRNcF90

Kantor first explored infinities and died insane in an asylum.
Boltzman hung himself after continuing Kantor's work.
Kurt Godel (close freind of Einstein) starved himself to death.
Alan Turing ate a cyanide laced apple.

The movie "a beautiful mind", the John Nash story, shows Nash getting well but doesn't touch on exactly how he did it, he tells how it came about on youtube, he used his mind to explore God.
The first 4 tried to wrap their intellect around God.

A mathematician at MIT asked how he did it, he said I decided to try and seek God. The response was " well why didn't you try sooner".
No-one surrenders their own ideas as being worthless until they have beaten themself to a pulp. Then, to their surprise they find it is effortless.

I believe this happens to more people than realised.

 

[Les Robb]

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Hey cheer up, I never realized how many of the guys here were in or about to turn 50. When you reach 63 like me you, discover that 50 is more like being a teenager. Yeah we all made mistakes in life that we regret but in the long run we can count our blessings for all the good things we did accomplish in our lives. May you live to post in another 50 years or so.

Really good replies here ya'll

 

[bassman284]

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I kind of vaguely remember turning 50. At least I think that's what I'm remembering. Maybe it was something else.

 

[OldePharte]

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Heck, if I knew that I would last past 60 I probably would have taken care of myself better.

After awhile one learns that unless it causes the sun to rise in the west, don't worry about it.

One of my favorite sayings - Grant me the fortitude to accept those things I can't change; grant me the courage to change the things I can change and grant me the wisdom to know the difference. (Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr)

 

[Les Robb]

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I never realized how many of the members were in their 50's, and when you get to the ripe old age of 63 like me you will long for the days when you were so young. We all have made lousy decisions in our lives and still have time to make more but just think of all the good things we accomplished during this period. I just finished building a 4' x 8' deer stand in my back field that stands about 10 ft (floor level) off the ground. Corner posts are 4x4 by 16' and sunk in concrete. This was a little tough to do by myself, but with braces was able to keep the posts square. When I was 50 I could have finished it in a third of the time but what the heck I don't move as fast anymore. After 50 is really a good time if you just learn to finally mature and accept the fact that their are a lot more important things for you do do in your life than worry about growing older.

Best of luck to you (Keep the faith)

PS (4 year cancer survivor)(Sorry I though original post wasn't made)

 

[elrod]

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I am 62 years old, right now all I want to do is figure out how to get a picture I have downloaded from my camera to this computer, then be able to post it in one of these threads. I've seen threads that helped explain how to do it but can't find it now when I need it.

 

[DECK SWABBER 58]

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I am 62 years old, right now all I want to do is figure out how to get a picture I have downloaded from my camera to this computer, then be able to post it in one of these threads. I've seen threads that helped explain how to do it but can't find it now when I need it.

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