Do you hide money from your spouse?

[kenimpzoom]

Re: Do you hide money from your spouse?

I cant afford to hide money from the wife. If I could, I would keep less than 500 bucks, just to blow on my stuff.

We also discuss major purchases except for gifts.

My wife hides money all the time, then reveals it to me. I get mad cause I was pulling my hair out trying to pay for all the bills when she was stockpiling it. The she gets mad again when I want to use it to pay bills, instead of buying that dress/purse/other useless item. I think she finally learned her lesson last time. Yea, right, who am I kidding.

I think most married folks keep some extra cash hidden away, and I dont have a problem with it, as long as it is revealed in a reasonable amount of time.

Ken

 

[ezbtr]

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I'm in the same boat as some, what's a good credit counseling co.? My deal was due to my ex , I lost stocks, half of 401K and she was paying bills while I earned the money - never again, hell my money was paying HER old debts and maybe the minimum on MINE.I've also heard that can negatively show on your credit report? I also am going through a credit union as their interest rates are much better - just need to do another refi when I can with them. I'm so sick of old bills, we live(me and kids) very frugally yet still have fun though, sure would be nicer w/o old debt.

 

[SS MAYFLOAT]

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I'm in the same boat as some, what's a good credit counseling co.? My deal was due to my ex , I lost stocks, half of 401K and she was paying bills while I earned the money - never again, hell my money was paying HER old debts and maybe the minimum on MINE.I've also heard that can negatively show on your credit report? I also am going through a credit union as their interest rates are much better - just need to do another refi when I can with them. I'm so sick of old bills, we live(me and kids) very frugally yet still have fun though, sure would be nicer w/o old debt.

Check your messages, sent you one with info on the one we use........SS

 

[Fly Rod]

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I do not hide mine, it stays in my wallet.

 

[rolmops]

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Everything goes into a shared bank account. I do all the finances and she has no idea how much we have,but she thinks that we have enough and she tries to give away more than we earn.If not for mister stingy,aka rolmops, all the poor would be dressed and rolmops and wife would be homeless!

 

[bucky7680]

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I get $300 FU money from each paycheck. The rest is joint household money. I'm lucky I marired a fiscally responsible lady. We've made our money together.

 

[Kenneth Brown]

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No hidden money here, we don't have it to hide. I've been married since 94 and we've always had a joint checking account with direct deposit for both of us. She was bad about not paying bills so I do all of that. Its funny cuz she would completely forget to pay something yet she is the one who can save money and makes the (usually) better financial decisions.

 

[treedancer]

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My wife usually pays the bills from a joint account ,we have two credit cards, visa and amex..We pay them off in full every month, I pay the amex off on the computer as I?m on it when I?m home. It wasn?t always this easy; I married an angel to put up with my sorry azz for all of these years. Especially in the seventies when I came out of the service. All I can say is if it wasn?t for her, I would be pushing a grocery basket ,and muttering to imaginary people. Were not rich by any means, but have two cars paid off, and a old truck plus the house on ten acres paid off.

 

[rmmpe]

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I, like Treedancer, am married to an Angel. She handles ALL the money and if it weren't for her frugality, I'd be fighting him for the baskets and having full-blown conversations with Phantoms.

Some of us get lucky (even a blind Squirrel finds an Acorn once in a while).

 

[Fly Rod]

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Everything goes into a shared bank account. I do all the finances and she has no idea how much we have,but she thinks that we have enough and she tries to give away more than we earn.If not for mister stingy,aka rolmops, all the poor would be dressed and rolmops and wife would be homeless!

I agree!!

I have to remind the wife, to give it to the kids or grand kids, and not some government give away program.

"Charity Begins At Home!!"

 

[frayedknotarts]

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Since I work from home, I use the joint account for bills and such and my separate account for the business... so I don't have to "hide" anything. (But I still do. In the Oxford English Dictionary: there's always a small stash in "cash", "money", "savings", and hideout". Force of habit from 'the bad old days'.)

 

[OLDSPUD]

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Yes, usually large amounts, but don't hide it, just have separate accounts and credit cards. I pay all my bills and the house payment, she buys her own cars, clothing, and furniture for the house. I buy the food and pay all utility bills. My company pays for both of our auto repair and fuel, car insuarance and leases my cars.

I know that is guite different form most, but it works well for us. I usually don't know how much she has, and she never knows how much I have. I give her money when she is short. She pays for her daughters things (9 year old) but I pay a large share of the private school bills.

I have my own shop where I keep the boat and old cars, tools and projects. I usually hide out there on weekends and when I want to get away from everything.

Spud

 

[mike176]

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We have a joint account and she knows how much i bring home but i am putin aside a small amout in cash for a new dirtbike that she does not know about. We make the ends meet and still have a savings fund. I just don't want to pull from that money for toys. We got some really nice dirt bikes from a drugbust at work, its my job to take care of them till they make it to auction. I'm gonna try to get 1 of the 3 best at the public auction next year. She know i always want a new toy. The bad thing is i just bought a new boat, my argument is i need something for the winter.

 

[Bigprairie1]

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...well its kind of an odd question, but an honest one. No, we don't hide money from one another...we are pretty tight that way (ie: on the 'trust' front). I wouldn't think of hiding money from my wife.....there is no reason to that I can currently see or understand.
Whatever I get, thats 'extra' income/etc, I look forward to us doing some with it together usually. (maybe thats the odd part of this...not the question?).
Similar to QC's experience we do know lots of people (socially) who seem to be running a pretty covert operation on this issue....they too are seemingly on the brink of splitsville.

 

[puddle jumper]

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Mike176

You need to tell your wife "with big puppy dog eyes" how bad it needs a good home and you can give it one.

 

[Turin]

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We have separate bank accounts, no credit card's,And a stone cow were we put in some money to do something fun.
And i still pay almost everything because she only works 3 days a week and the house is mine and will stay mine.

 

[mrfixitman40]

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we have seperate accounts mine pays the bills hers buys the small things for the kids and whatever she wants the money i make after work is mine . When i call it quits at the dealership i presently work and work for myself I won't be able to hide as much but i will always have my extra around when needed.

 

[beerrun]

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After 10 years we finally combined bank accounts. He is really good with $$. He talked me into getting rid of my Jeep last year and now I am down to one motorcycle, one car, one 4 wheeler and one boat. We dont use credit cards and you cant pay me enough to spend a day at the mall. I'm more of a jeans and sneakers kinda girl. I've tried to hide $$ from him but he knows where every penny is. We have a vacation jar but that will be emptied in December. He is probably hiding some from me. hmmm...Maybe I can get him to go look at that little aluminum Lone Star down the road. Its been sitting there a long time.

 

[arboldt]

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Absolutely not. We're both in this life together, and will be 'till we're done.

Dad was an excellent money manager, and he & Mom had a wonderful partnership attitude we hope to emulate. When my father died, Mom had no accounts in her name. She had a very difficult time -- not only the grief of losing her husband of 60 years, but no credit, no bank account she could use. It took quite a bit to get herself re-established financially.

Since then, I make sure my wife and I have at least one bank account and one credit card in each of our names as primary and the other as secondary. Pay checks are electronically deposited, and every so often I'll re-balance amounts in each account to maximize interest income. Every few months I force her to the PC to pay bills so she knows where everything is and how to do it. I do NOT want her to go through what Mom did.

That said, we have one checking account paychecks are deposited to and bills paid from. We have one primary credit card we use for most purchases. We have other accounts in each of our names for various purposes. No secrets -- ever. We do each carry less than $100 cash even though most purchases are on the one card. I can't remember the last time I ever asked her to justify and expenditure -- or needed to.

We have each always had veto power over each other's spending. There's no dollar limit, but anything out of the ordinary is always discussed, researched, and planned. Many times over the years she's kept me from a foolish (or just unnecessary) expense. I've done that, too, but I find it hard to say 'No' to her.

 

[steve201]

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we're pretty open but I do keep things like change and money from my allowance....then I buy myself something rediculous ....like a new gun or cd or bass strings!!..then she says..where'd you get that money??...
we can buy whatever we want but it's kinda fun to play hide and seek....