Good Example of Bad Parenting

Mark42

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The 17 yr old down the street has a pickup with really loud exhaust. He also has 3 or 4 friends who also have loud pickups. For the last month or so they like speed down the street, and "peel out" at the corner. It was starting to get annoying listening to these lead foots at 12:30AM on Friday night and daily right after high school got out. So I decided to stop at the neighbors house last Sunday morning and discuss it with them. <br /><br />The son answered the door and right away looked real nervous. I asked to come in and he obliged. I told him that he and his friends are a problem. They are a nusince and dangerous. I also reminded him that a few years ago when he was riding his bike, or on roller blades, we watched out for him and made sure that he was safe playing on the street. Now my kids can't ride their bikes in the street because he is now driving. It was not fair. I told him we were looking out for him. Now I need him to return the favor and look out for my kids. <br /><br />About that time of the conversation his mother comes up from the basement. I told her we were discussing his driving habits. She said that he was warned about his driving and to call the cops the next time he bothers us. So I told him that everything is cool as long as he behaves, but if he or his friends continue, I will call the police. That is how I left it.<br /><br />They were good all week. Until Friday evening. A pickup pulled up in front of my house and revs up the motor then speeds off down the street. So I call the kids Father and he says the gang is all there and I should call the police. "Its the only way they will learn". <br /><br />So I did. The State Trooper came by and told me that he can't do anything unless he catches them. I can get a licence plate and call the county court and they will be issued a summons, go to court point out the kid and he will get the ticket same as if the police issued it. Then the trooper went to their house and talked to the kids. Don't know what he told them, but he was there about 20 minutes. <br /><br />If that was my kid and neighbors were complaining, first thing I would do is take the truck away. Then tell his friends they are not allowed to come to the house anymore. If they do, I will call the police. Then I would have my kid put in a quiet muffler.<br /><br />These parents act as though the 17 year old calls the shots and there is nothing they can do! What a gutless set of parents handling a problem with their kid by making the neighbor call the cops. The kid is not out of control. He gets good grades, is well behaved otherwise. So why do the parents let the kids walk all over them. They act like their hands are tied. Why do I have to call the cops? Ironic that the Father is the local Scout Master. What a joke he has become in my eyes.<br /><br />Just really bad parenting if you ask me.
 

wildbill59

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

That's because there is no longer a child/parent relationship. Everybody is wanting to be "Friends".
 

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

I want to know what they said when they "talked" to their kid about his driving habits the first<br />time....
 

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

These are not poor people. They have a nice 3 bedroom house on about 3 acre property. Mom drives a '97 Lincoln, Dad drives a new Ford sedan. <br /><br />The road in front of their house is a mess of tire marks. From the looks of things, someone lost control trying to do a "donut" and slid into the field across the street, taking out their mailbox. There was plenty of opportunity for these parents to end the problem, but chose to ignore it. <br /><br />Their mail box still lies on the ground in the field.
 

heycods

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

One of thoes nice nabor boys came by my house in town doing about 60 in a 30 hit the dip in front of my house , went airborn for about 20' and liked to have run over my son when he was about 5 yrs old. I went straight to his house and confronted mom dad and son, I was mad as he!!,I probably explained my feelings a little to strongly. Never had a problem with him again.
 

jtexas

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

You teach his kids manners by calling the police? Must be what they mean by "it takes a village"...
 

SwampNut

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If that was my kid and neighbors were complaining, first thing I would do is take the truck away. Then tell his friends they are not allowed to come to the house anymore.
You mean AFTER the beatings? Or administer the beatings while destroying the truck keys?
 

Boomyal

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

The parents bought the liberal line, hook, line and sinker! Children have rights and they have to be left to make up their own minds about issues of life. They also did not subscribe to the 'spare the rod, spoil the child, maxim that the liberals so aschew.<br /><br />It's a wonderful world that Ted Kennedy et al has laid out for us, huh?
 

deputydawg

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

Welcome to my world.<br /><br />It is amazing to me. I never dreamed of parents doing things they do when I wa a kid, if I got out of line I didn't sit for a week. If my driving was bad enough to get complaints or if I got a ticket I lost my car for a month or more. Riding the bus was enough for me. Even though I bought the car with my own money, mom and dad had full control of when and where I drove.<br /><br />Parents now all tell me they "CAN'T" take kids car away because they bought it or because it is "theirs". I say B.S.<br /><br />It is amazing what parents call the police for too. A few years ago my Sheriff was called to a house because little Suzie wouldn't get out of bed for school. He walked in told her to get to school. She said F*^k off. He grabbed her matress and flipped it sending her across the room. He used some language she obviosly could understand. She said he couldn't talk to her like that, he said he just did. She went to school.<br /><br />I even get calls from parents when their kid refuses to come home from a friends house for curfew. I have started telling them it is not a law enforcement issue, it is a parenting issue and they need to learn how to handle it. <br /><br />I am surprised that the kids haven't all retaliated against you for complaining. Complaints usually end with yards torn up, trash dumped in yards etc. All because they know mom and dad are powerless to stop them. <br /><br />I do have to blame some of this on CPS. In most cases if a parent spanks a child over age 7 or 8, the kid threatens to complain to protective services. The parents are afraid to paddle the child in case a teacher finds out, or the child reports them because they will get into trouble. We even have kids call in to report their parents for things all of the time. It has to be investigated closely to weed out the abuse from the disciplin. A lot of kids report child abuse with as little as grounding the child from acticities. It is just ridiculous.
 

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

I don't think any of us has all of the answers. My sixteen year old boy is not driving yet. He just started working (part time) and is saving up money for his first car. He doesn't know it yet, but I will help him buy his first car, just as soon as he gets serious about saving the money he earns. My dad did this to me and I thought it was a great lesson. Quick story, when he has saved a reasonable amount......I'll match his funds. On the other side of things, anytime "junior" has gotten "too big for his britches" We have "reminded" him that as long as he lives under our roof, he will obey us. He has his own computer....but it is connected to our internet service and our electricity.....he leaves it on when he is not home......it gets locked up for a week. Do I really care about the 30 cents it costs to run the computer....no, however I do care that he minds me. In my opinion, teaching a young man to behave like one requires dicipline. I think your neighbors have lost all control of their son. Kids will be kids, and I have to say, do you remember the things you did when you first started driving ? With that said, I have to agree, if a neighbor took the time to come to the house about my sons driving, his wheels would be suspended for a week or more. Parents that use the police are looking for an easy way out....they don't want to be the "heavy" they want someone else to do it for them.
 

Braxton

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

you know a parent might not take the car or truck away because they bought it. but here in florida if im not mistaken a parent can take away there drivers lic. if there home and under 18 years of age. LOL more than one way to skin that old cat LOL.
 

kenimpzoom

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

Sounds like the boy aint too smart.<br /><br />I drove like a bat out of he!! when I was young, but I was always smart enough to go slow in the neighborhoods.<br /><br />Do you know if the offender is the neighbor's son, or is it one of his buddies?<br /><br />Ken
 

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If the parents can't control a 17 year old and the kid doesn't respect you enough to control his and his friends actions, I would continue to call the cops on them when they are breaking the law. If they are only doing nonsense, then the law of averages will catch up with them and hopefully an innocent person won't die.
 

alden135

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Re: Good Example of Bad Parenting

Funny, but roofing nails keep coming to mind.
 
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