Well, after trying a few more things....
-Removed O-rings from yoke to make sure that wasn't what was hanging up
-Inspected all the splines for any damage/deformation
-Messed with left/right biasing motor while tightening rear mounts more
-Got alignment bar at a balance somewhere between even spline marks and the easiest spot to install bar
After that I was out of ideas, so I took some 220 sand paper and went over the yoke right where the gimbal bearing goes cuz I noticed there was a little bit of what looked like galling and there was a very slightly raised spot, maybe .002-.003".
After that I wiped everything down, oiled the o-rings, and gave it one more try... As usual it stopped right where it had been stopping, but after a single calibrated "Merkick" it popped almost the whole way on... at that point I just used the nuts to get it the rest of the way... I'm not sure if I'm gonna ruin my coupler, but I don't know how I could have gotten it aligned any better...
I think I'm gonna run it as-is unless someone has any other suggestions