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Re: Losing loved ones to Death
That is terrible, what happened around you but did you ever think your grandpa might have been Clinically depressed? I stated that if improvement doesn't come after the stages then a person might be depressed and therefore in need of medication. Clinical depression:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175
"Depression is a medical illness that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression can cause physical symptoms, too.
Also called major depression, major depressive disorder and clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave. Depression can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and depression may make you feel as if life isn't worth living.
More than just a bout of the blues, depression isn't a weakness, nor is it something that you can simply "snap out" of. Depression is a chronic illness that usually requires long-term treatment, like diabetes or high blood pressure. But don't get discouraged. Most people with depression feel better with medication, psychological counseling or other treatment. "
Many elderly are bad about not getting treatment for mental problems. Back before 1980 mental problems were stigmatized. Saying you were depressed could get to electric shock treatments and/or committed to a mental institution.
Sounds like you are still grieving over your grandpas death and your way of coping it is redirecting your feelings toward anger. Many use anger to cope with the loss of a loved one. Like a woman losing her husband--He left me with these kids and all these bills!!! Yea like he had a choice. But anger can be a coping mechanism. There is that self pity you so much disdain. When you forgive your grandpa and start understanding that he may have had a serious medical condition then you can grieve properly and move on
That is terrible, what happened around you but did you ever think your grandpa might have been Clinically depressed? I stated that if improvement doesn't come after the stages then a person might be depressed and therefore in need of medication. Clinical depression:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175
"Depression is a medical illness that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Depression can cause physical symptoms, too.
Also called major depression, major depressive disorder and clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave. Depression can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and depression may make you feel as if life isn't worth living.
More than just a bout of the blues, depression isn't a weakness, nor is it something that you can simply "snap out" of. Depression is a chronic illness that usually requires long-term treatment, like diabetes or high blood pressure. But don't get discouraged. Most people with depression feel better with medication, psychological counseling or other treatment. "
Many elderly are bad about not getting treatment for mental problems. Back before 1980 mental problems were stigmatized. Saying you were depressed could get to electric shock treatments and/or committed to a mental institution.
Sounds like you are still grieving over your grandpas death and your way of coping it is redirecting your feelings toward anger. Many use anger to cope with the loss of a loved one. Like a woman losing her husband--He left me with these kids and all these bills!!! Yea like he had a choice. But anger can be a coping mechanism. There is that self pity you so much disdain. When you forgive your grandpa and start understanding that he may have had a serious medical condition then you can grieve properly and move on
