Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

[jjacobs007]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

From one Las Vegan to another....Your life doesn't suck because you work as a buffet server. Don't think of it that way. First off, none of us care that you bring drinks, and clear tables after the tourons. It's a honest day's work, and it's more honorable then being behind the Strat slinging dope. I guarantee you that your little girl won't be any less proud of you or love you any less because of your profession. Think of it this way...you are employed in a city that has 12-14% unemployment at the moment. You work in a place that provides you with paid vacations, paid overtime, paid holidays, provides you with health insurance (big one right there), and advancement opportunities. You can transfer from the buffet into any other department out there. Go to the front desk, bell desk, valet, warehouse, etc. You have your foot in the door and can go anywhere you want from there. It's a stepping stone.

My life plans were to go into the Air Force Academy, get my aeronautical engineering degree, then off to flight school to fly fighter jets. That didn't exactly go according to plan, I drive cabs for a living now. But you know what...I do 60 hours a week, make a descent living and I'm off work and home before my kids are out of school. I get to spend the afternoons with them, help them with homework, tuck them into bed, etc. Being a cab driver isn't as glamorous as being a pilot, but I wouldn't have the home time like I do, and it makes me a better dad then if I had a better job.

As far as the boat is concerned...keep it. You'll need the distraction now more then before. You will need to have something that is just for you to decompress and clear your head. Even if all you can muster is a couple hours a week it will give you an avenue to channel your frustrations, and will give you a sense of yourself.

Congrats on the little girl my friend, I have 2 of them. If you need to talk things out a bit more, just shoot me a PM and I'll be more then happy to lend an ear and maybe give some outside perspective.

Your words are very strong to my heart, the reason i hate my job is because its a casino and they take all the money from the locals who go there for fun,before you can play 20.00 for a hour and now a 20 gets you 5min.I mean that the people come into the buffet all pissed off and i have to deal with there games and i mean games while my boss and there bosses keep on trucking.I am like a baby sittter for the casino,In our mandatory meetings they say how they can take the locals money and not make them mad about it.I am the stepping stone in this level.My sister also drives a cab for a living and i hope you fly the fighter jets one day.you too are bold,but the fortunes that favor us are like no other.

 

[jjacobs007]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

JJ, Congrats . Females are money sucking leaches until you die.

Trust me on that one because I have 2 of them. :facepalm:


Just kidding with ya. . You'll know in your heart what to do.

love the cat in the hat!! I know women too!but when there little, they dont care about $$$

 

[jjacobs007]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

Think about this... You know how babies and children fall asleep so easily in a car when on the road? Well, I've found it to be even more so on the water in a boat. My Father-in-Law had told me years ago that his greatest memories of my wife's childhood were on the water, boating.

The Chaparral in my avatar and signature used to belong to him. A couple years ago, he told me he was thinking about selling her. He didn't use the boat that much, because of all the stumps on Lake Seminole. He uses his 17' aluminum Grumman stick steer for fishing, and just motoring around on the water. I asked him, unless you really need the money now, please wait until I can afford to buy her from you. He told me he didn't really need the money, he just hated to see the boat just sitting there. He told me he would keep the boat; come and use it any time you want. It wasn't long after that, maybe a month or so, he rolls up my driveway towing the boat. I meet him in the yard (I heard his diesel truck roll up). I asked him what are you doing with the boat? He handed me title, keys, and registration for the boat and trailer. He told me, again, how most of his fondest memories of my wife and Brother-in-Laws childhood took place on the water. He went on to tell me, "I want you to have that, too. The boat is yours." I'll never forget that day, and the look of happiness and pride on his face as he gave me his beautiful boat.

My point is, J, unless you really need the money now, keep the boat. Don't give her up because you're faced with something new and getting rid of something seems to be a solution. You've got a lot on your mind right now. You love that boat and everything associated with her. Share that with your unborn child and her mother. You don't have to wait years to take her on the boat. Infant PFD's are not expensive. Share your love of the water with your family.

I know ive been bumping into you a few times before those other post i made,You watch me? talk to me directly if u like,ive read your response and i feel it in my heart.Ive always waited for someone to pull up in my driveway with a dream boat,You must be a awesome person for this blessing.Thank you for the advise.Oh ya dont bold me in red lol.

 

[DuckHunterJon]

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JJ - just another view from someone not too removed. We had our daughter 4 months ago tomorrow. We certainly thought about selling the boat. With diapers, formula, and daycare - who can't think about those things. But then I remembered back to my younger days, I coudln't wait until opening day of bass season. Don't tell my dad, but it wasn't the fishing. It was just simply something that my dad and I did together and it was an opportunity to spend time with him. In the end, I'm keeping the boat - even though it hasn't been splashed yet this summer (still time!).

If you have to sell it, do it and plan for a new one down the line. If you keep it, enjoy it with your family. Either way, you win!

 

[jmarty10]

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Everybodys job sucks, thats why we boating to get away from it. Boating is the best with the kids

 

[ezmobee]

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It hasn't really seemed like a long time between when I was in your shoes and this: http://i176.photobucket.com/albums/w200/ezmobee/New Boat/IMG_1179.jpg Keep the boat. You'll be glad you have it later on.

 

[tswiczko]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

You might want to sell it .......................



To get a bigger boat

Congrats on the new addition.

 

[Raystownboater]

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If these pics dont help you decide, I dont know what will!

 

[Ryan50]

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We have #4 on the way due Dec 5th. I'm broke and need a larger house but the boat is staying. Some of our most cherished memories are from time spent on the water with the kids.

 

[*mtrbtr*]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

I had my 1st son this year right before boating season. Things changed for sure and the kid definitley comes first and love of boating and the lake comes second. We still got out a few times. There will be adjustments and you might go every other weekend now or every two. Lots of good advice for you here. Im glad I have kept my boat.

 

[nlain]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

I have to say that with all that you have overcome, you have already attained the Great Man, Great Father goal, and yes you have to maintain the Great Father part of this. I turned 67 yesterday, I say this to justify the next statement, in my years of life I have witnessed a lot. People on drugs, people on alcohol, etc, they had what you have worked to attain, they lost it all, some even their life. You have a job, it may not be what you think it should be, but , you have a job, keep it, look for better and be careful when you see what you think is better, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Now, on to the people that have more money than you, a better job than you. That does not make them better than you, they may have more money, they may have a bigger house, they may have a newer car, etc, that does not make them better than you. With what you have already overcome to be where you are today, I would say that in most cases you are already a better man/father than those that have more money than you. Love the family, keep the boat, if the wife enjoys the boat and you enjoy the boat, then when the time arrives that the little one gets to go on the boat she to will love the boat. I say boat, not necessarily the boat, time on the water, time with the family, maybe even time with daddy. I have a daughter, that is a girl, she is daddy's girl. I have made my living as a mechanic for most of my life, she takes after me. She needs a car fixed, she will take it apart, may call daddy to see if she is doing it right, she will replace the parts needed and drive on down the road. She still enjoys time on the boat with the family to this day. Do talk it over with mama, cause if mama is not happy no one is happy. From what you say I think she will work with you and you will be on the water next year. Congratulations on the addition to the family and enjoy life, it is too short not too.

 

[kemer1]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

Your words are very strong to my heart, the reason i hate my job is because its a casino and they take all the money from the locals who go there for fun,before you can play 20.00 for a hour and now a 20 gets you 5min.I mean that the people come into the buffet all pissed off and i have to deal with there games and i mean games while my boss and there bosses keep on trucking.I am like a baby sittter for the casino,In our mandatory meetings they say how they can take the locals money and not make them mad about it.I am the stepping stone in this level.My sister also drives a cab for a living and i hope you fly the fighter jets one day.you too are bold,but the fortunes that favor us are like no other.

Thank you for the well wishes, but the fighter jet ship has sailed, I'm a bit too old for that now.

As far as the casino thing goes...look at it another way. The casino only takes the money that you willingly put down on the table. Nobody there is holding a knife to their throat telling them to take out another hundo out of the ATM. If you don't offer it up, they won't take it. I've lived in Vegas for 18 years now, and I've yet to put a quarter into a slot machine. Gambling isn't hurting me one bit. The casino knows that these people will be going somewhere willingly to gamble, they're trying to figure out how to get a larger piece of the pie. Like I said, keep an eye on the open postings in other departments, and when you see something more suitable put in a transfer.

In any case, just enjoy this time, as when the baby arrives your life will change. Sleepless nights, no more just getting up and going to the movies whenever you want, the baby will demand every second of your time. The boat will be an escape for you to keep your sanity.

BTW who does your sister drive for?

 

[jjacobs007]

Re: Need advice my boys! Im having a baby and not shure about what to do with boat.

I have to say that with all that you have overcome, you have already attained the Great Man, Great Father goal, and yes you have to maintain the Great Father part of this. I turned 67 yesterday, I say this to justify the next statement, in my years of life I have witnessed a lot. People on drugs, people on alcohol, etc, they had what you have worked to attain, they lost it all, some even their life. You have a job, it may not be what you think it should be, but , you have a job, keep it, look for better and be careful when you see what you think is better, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. Now, on to the people that have more money than you, a better job than you. That does not make them better than you, they may have more money, they may have a bigger house, they may have a newer car, etc, that does not make them better than you. With what you have already overcome to be where you are today, I would say that in most cases you are already a better man/father than those that have more money than you. Love the family, keep the boat, if the wife enjoys the boat and you enjoy the boat, then when the time arrives that the little one gets to go on the boat she to will love the boat. I say boat, not necessarily the boat, time on the water, time with the family, maybe even time with daddy. I have a daughter, that is a girl, she is daddy's girl. I have made my living as a mechanic for most of my life, she takes after me. She needs a car fixed, she will take it apart, may call daddy to see if she is doing it right, she will replace the parts needed and drive on down the road. She still enjoys time on the boat with the family to this day. Do talk it over with mama, cause if mama is not happy no one is happy. From what you say I think she will work with you and you will be on the water next year. Congratulations on the addition to the family and enjoy life, it is too short not too.

thanks for the great advise and story of your life too.

 

[bnicov]

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Keep the boat if storage is not a financial burden. Every man has to have a pastime and a passion outside of his family, be it fishing, hunting, BOATING, playing sports, etc... It keeps us occupied and out of trouble. Otherwise, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc... can come into play. Spend some of your free time working on the boat, once your little girl grows up a bit, think of the time you can spend with her out on the water. It will be priceless. My 2 girls, aged 6 and 5 love going out on the boat with daddy and it's a huge treat to be able to stay up a bit and go fishing with daddy in the evenings and you know what, when I go out fishing with them, I don't even wet a line myself, I let the kids have all the fun. Good luck, be thankful you have a job that pays you relatively well and remember, every job has it's different set of issues and most of all, enjoy your little girl, they grow up so fast, before you can blink your eyes, she will be off to school.

 

[Silvertip]

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Although this picture is of my grand daughter, it shows just how much enjoyment, relaxation, and peace one can have with a boat -- any boat. This picture was taken in 2006 but my kids and their kids have all been around boats of various types and on nearly every trip one of them could be found sleeping at one time or another. When they weren't sleeping they were tubing, fishing, or just enjoying the sights. Unless finances or personalities get in the way, you do not have to get rid of something whenever something new comes into your life. My 92 year old mother in law always says "do things you enjoy when you are young". We have passed that on to our kids and they to theirs. And just so you know -- your life doesn't suck! While there are and will always be folks who are better off than you, there are also folks who are worse off then you. You are in control your own destiny. Confide in and trust folks that can help you with career changes. I was laid off twice in my career, one on the day I signed papers to have a new house built. I never let those two incidents impact my life and found ways to work around them. In the end, they worked to my advantage. Stay with your project.

 

[LSP_NH_1974]

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LOL to the guy who called them "Tourons" I'm in Florida and hadn't heard that one, but my 8 year old heard about some "tourists" on the news and thought they said there were lots of "terrorists" expected in the area for an upcoming event. It was kinda funny but kinda not at the same time.

My advice to the guy with the boat in storage...as a mother of five I just want to tell you that a one-year old child weighs about 20-25 or so pounds...start looking for a nice PFD for the baby now. She'll be walking before next summer and if you buy the lifejacket now, in the off-season, you might be able to get one really cheap on sale. Think how happy your wife will be when you tell her you saved BIG by buying it on sale...

 

[SDSeville]

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Listen to the song by Trace Adkins HERE. It still tears me up to listen to that song. I can't say it any better than the great folks above me on this thread. Please don't sell your boat...keep it for your little girl. You won't regret it.

That song brings tears to my eyes also, especially since my daughters are almost grown up -- 21 year old junior in college and 17 year old high school senior.

KEEP THE BOAT!! The girls and my 10 year old boy have been on the water all their lives and it has been great. Even though my girls are older now, neither of them ever misses a boating trip. It really keeps the family together.

 

[MRS]

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Family trips are the best.