Been trailering FOR 50 years.
So have I, and I've never worn a tire out from over-inflation. Out of alignment? Yep. Road hazards? Sure. Over-weight? Ooops. Old and dry-rotted? Uh, huh. The trailers I've owned that were 'bouncy' were not matched to the boat (one or two), or not snugged to the stop, the trailer was zipping down a road that one should never traverse above a crawl, or the driver was otherwise afflicted with short-term dumb ass syndrome.
For the OP: Most truck stops have split scales. Straddle two platforms with the trailer, unhook and move the tow vehicle, have the weight taken. You will then know total weight, tongue weight (close enough), axle weight, and weight of the boat if you know trailer weight (you should). If your total weight is within 30% of max trailer weight, inflate to max and get on with gettin on down the road, you gain little by playing musical inflation pressures. The 'correct' tongue weight is subjective, and should be the one that produces the tamest ride (likely between 5% and 15%, single axles on the heavier end). Heavier than required, you may find a rocking horse behind you. Lighter than required and it may start to sasche(?) down the road behind. There are some givens with this stuff, but having to refer to a slide rule before pulling out ain't one of 'em ...
