sensative situation what would you do?

JB · May 13, 2006

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Why the heck is everyone putting this girl down? No evidence that she is a tramp, tease or anything else to watch out for, except just being a girl. Baggage? What the devil is that? Everyone alive has to carry around baggage? What baggage you have is immaterial. What you do with and about it matters. I disagree with PW2. Not the first time. The best way to have a friend is to BE a friend. That means avoiding behavior that hurts them. . . him or her. This "me first and to heck with everyone else and their feelings" is the attitude of a perpetual loner.

Pony · May 13, 2006

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PW2 said: If that costs you this guy's frienship, so be it. If he doesn't understand that he's not much of a friend.

Ditto.

JB said: I disagree with PW2. Not the first time. The best way to have a friend is to BE a friend. That means avoiding behavior that hurts them. . . him or her. This "me first and to heck with everyone else and their feelings" is the attitude of a perpetual loner.

JB,I'd normally agree with you on that statement.....BUT to me in this case, ryan's friend needs to be the one to change his attitude (provided ryan getting involved with this girl is affecting hi that much). It doesnt seem like they were EVER emotionaly involved or ANYTHING that would suggest a reason for him to be mad about it. Ryan is doing the right thing by talking to him about it, but if he is a friend like ryan describes him as, than he WILL understand ryan's situation and let it go. Our opinions really don;t matter in this, as we really dont know the relationship ryan has with this friend and vice versa, only he knows that. I also tend to agree with the fact that everyone has baggage, and it appears as though this girl is handling hers well........it would be pretty unfair to just to throw her aside because she has had a lot of misfortunes in her life. It shoulnt even be a factor in this descision IMHO.

KRS · May 13, 2006

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Originally posted by Ryan T.: ...but I will pass her up if I have to.

sloopy · May 13, 2006

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quote: Originally posted by Ryan T.: ...but I will pass her up if I have to.

Yeah that's love... lmfao Ryan the best advice I can give you is to find a girl at or above you. Try to find some daddies spoiled little girl and spoil her more then her dad does

. Hell just take four or five girls on one of your whalers and jokingly say; "sin or swim" and see how they react...

11 footer · May 13, 2006

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When i say "i will pass her up if i have to" I mean that if thats what it takes to keep one of my best freinds, I'll pick him over her. But for now, I like her a lot and we will have a second date, my friend seems a little bummed, but he knows its not my fault and I dont think hes going to make a big deal out of it. I'm going to go out with her again.

sloopy · May 13, 2006

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Originally posted by Ryan T.: my friend seems a little bummed

sigh....

PW2 · May 14, 2006

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What's wrong with being a loner, JB?

scrapper · May 14, 2006

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My .02 RT Live your life the way you see fit , There are lots and lots of "I told you so's " , But you are the one who has to make up your own mind on this ,. If you heed someones advice ( including my own) and things don't go as planned , you'll be a little more than miffed that you listened to that advice and always wondered if it would have been to you'r benifet to try it the other way . No mater what you decide , Its you who must decide ! and be ready for whatever happens . Im not saying there is not good advice given here by many, But not eveyone agrees on the others advice and thinks their own is the better .

oddjob · May 15, 2006

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Wow...baggage?.....aint that something new in the year 2006. Karma?....whos karma...she holds the karma for her family? I lost alot of friends in my day because of decisions my parents made. And then I avoided some because of their bagage. Life sucks sometimes. Some good points are made here. Jb if you didnt snap at PW I'd think you both were close it the same ideas. Some of us are born into things we just cant change. Really cool people walk out of that crap on their own or with some help of really good people. Ryan just dont tie yourself in so tight that you cant get out of it if your wrong about her. Protect yourself first and always and you can laugh about it later instead of cry. Oh ya, what LF said. dont talk like that around women. Take care.

kenimpzoom · May 15, 2006

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A little story about the "wrong ones" I know of a basket case girl that had amessed up life too. Ended up moving into a house with a woman I know who has had a rough life. The womans son and the basket case girl soon became involved. They eventually married. They then went to school. Both are now CPAs, welloff, happily married, and parents of twins. Ken

rodbolt · May 15, 2006

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OMG Rodbolt and Oddjob are in agreement. quick buy a lotto ticket. while I too have seen some folk with lots of baggage pick themselves up and move on I have seen way to many that cannot. most the guys I hung out with in high school are either in prison,dead or have felony drug convictions. I was lucky that about the time the hormones were going nuts I moved from the east to west coast. then was even luckier that an auto shop teacher took an intrest in me. even then it was touch and go till I was in my twenties. something about the birth of my daughter at age 24 snapped me out of it. however I have friends, or actually just folks I know, that have 2 or 3 kids that they get to see every couple months and then only from behind the glass. ryan I can tell you from experience with my first wife,22 years, that sometimes at age 18 neither side knows what direction they wish to go. dont tie yourself up to tight cause if one falls off the cliff the other usually goes too. my ex wife was abused and had issues, I met her as a senior she was living in a babtist childrens home in mobile AL. got married at 19. how we made it 22 years is still a mystree, not all was bad but she suffred from depression from the start. she would get on and off meds and in and out of phsch hospitals. I finnaly had to call an end to it in 02. should have done it in 82. gal I have dated since seems mostly normal but at the other end of the spectrum. the ones I dated in the interim gave a new meaning to crazy as a loon I found out,at least in my area, that if the female was my age and single there was a reason. most were chemically dependant and a few should have been. so can someone pull themselves together and move on? yep. its more common that they fall off the cliff.

BRG25 · May 15, 2006

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Oh boy...another issue of teen talk! He said...she said...waiting by the computer for her to get online. What's does my friend think? What do her friends think? The only thing missing is the myspace profiles.

Ryan, in another 10 years you're going to be embarrassed that you ever posted this stuff on here.

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