Wife is mad, What do I do?

[SS MAYFLOAT]

One of the guys that is in our billiards club is having an outside party/concert. It is a benefit to raise money for the Boy Scouts. He is having 3 bands (the Godz is one of them), Coors Lite beer wagon, and plenty of shreaded hog. 500 tickets were sold out in 3 days.<br /><br />Anyway I was invited with our tickets paid for. Wife said she wasn't interested in going that she didn't care for loud music. So I told them I wasn't interested in going, but thanks for the offer. Being an old time DJ, I was just itching to go but I didn't tell them that.<br /><br />So the next day, Bruce calls me up and asked me to bring my bucket truck out to video tape the party. Said he would pay me $50 bucks to do it. He said it would be good exposure to get some jobs lined up for my small Aerial Maintenenace business. So I told him that I would do it.<br /><br />Now my wife is PO'd at me for accepting the offer. I hate to decline the offer after passing up two other offers from previous events that he had. The issue here is that the extra money is needed badly. After Carls legal expenses, doctor bills and wifes college, we have been strapped.<br /><br />It is hard for me to pass up the exposure of my maintenance service. I just want to get where the truck is paying for itself and the insurance and then some extra for house repairs.<br /><br />Any suggestions on how to remedy the situation without declining the job? I just hate it when she doen't talk to me....and other things too!

 

[achris]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Try flowers and chocolates.

<br /><br />If that don't work, do unto others... Don't talk to her!

 

[gaugeguy]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Enjoy the silent treatment while it lasts

 

[samagee]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Do the work and then line up some more. Put the money into a hidden account that only you have access to.

 

[KeltonKrew]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

go. Just because she doesn't want to doesn't mean you can earn some extra cash, plus the publicity of your work!<br /><br />This is better than free advertising, he's going to give you $50, plus the food/drink/music.<br /><br />Jump on this like a pack of dogs on a 3 legged Cat!

 

[one more cast]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

I don't understand why she should be mad at you if she is the one that didn't want to go. lets look at this in print......<br /> wife- don't like loud music<br /> ss- likes loud music<br /> wife- wants to stay home<br /> ss- wants to go<br /> ss- declines invite to please wife<br /> wife- happy now<br /> ss- gets job offer at party<br /> the way I see it you both should be happy now.

 

[oddjob]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

women is not logical...ignor women and make money...then go fishing the next day....enjoy being a man...

 

[mellowyellow]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

women are rarely mad about what you think they are.<br />maybe you can figure out what she's really mad about?<br />oh, and don't forget to hang a big sign on the bucket.<br />"show us yur taters" or something like that

 

[gaugeguy]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

maybe she's mad about the sign that will hang off the bucket <br /><br />Men **** women off, that's what we do, we are good at it, and sometimes we do it just for fun.<br /><br />It's not like you did something intentionally to tweak her ovaries, so she'll calm down and probably even apologize to you.

 

[Carphunter]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Give her a good smackin. <br /><br />.......Boy, I sure am good at this Psychology stuff.

 

[LadyFish]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

After reading, I'm not sure this is the best place to come for advice. <br /><br />Truth is, if it was me and my only excuse was that I didn't like loud music then I would stay home and let you go. You have an opportunity to make money do it.<br /><br />If I was concerned about you going for whatever reason, I would go with you.

 

[CoachHolland]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Sounds like a control issue to me. If she didn't want to go when I had tickets, I would have had someone else go with me instead.<br /><br />Just because you're married doesn't mean that you're not allowed to enjoy life anymore. If you like loud music and she doesn't, then tough. Go with someone who does, but then tell her to go out with a friend of hers to do something she enjoys while you're off doing your own thing.<br /><br />If she's not satisfied with that, then there are other issues which there is nothing you can do about other than hanging your head, saying "Yes dear, whatever makes you happy dear" and going on and being miserable. Men always get the bad rap for being the control freaks, not "allowing" their significant other to do things and eventually it leads to an abusive situation. However, there are women out there that do the same thing.

 

[jtexas]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

SS, all I can tell you is what I would do if I were in your shoes. My wife is usually pretty rational, or if she feels irrationally about something she usually just comes out and says so. So in your case, I would have to conclude there's only one of two possible explanations:<br /><br />1. Something I've forgotten, like a promise I made to do something that day, or an anniversary of some kind, or<br /><br />2. Some irrational reason why she's angry which either she doesn't know about it yet, or she has some reason not to tell me. Like, she found a gray hair or a wrinkle on her forehead or something.<br /><br />Either way, I would do the deal, then wait a couple days to see if she comes around, and if not then there's only one course of action:<br /><br />Admit you were wrong and apologize profusely.<br /><br />That usually works for me.<br /><br />Good luck!

 

[Jack Shellac]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Look at it the other way. What if it was some doofus thing she wanted to do, like go to the ballet or something? Would she have been as nice about you not wanting to go? You went the extra mile. Now it has turned into a work situation. Go and don't worry about it. Remember, no matter how far behind you get on the "other", it only takes a minute to get all caught up. The "silence" part is just a little bonus.

 

[achris]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

A MINUTE! Wish mine took that long....

 

[aspeck]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

SS, sounds like something else is going on here. IMHO you need to find out what BEFORE the concert goes down. $50 and a concert is not worth a fight, but maybe with a little soul searching and discussion you can find out what is ticking her off and in the end you can have your $50, the additional advertising, the concert, and you both be happy. Ask questions as to why she is upset with the business deal. What was it that she wanted to do? What can you do together with the added $50 in the budget?<br /><br />You might find with a little work you could be in a win-win situation!

 

[achris]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

New idea!!! Wife not like loud music? Supply ear plugs!

 

[POINTER94]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

LadyFish, I frequently read your posts and your insights seem ALWAYS grounded in good common sense. But then I realize that you are a woman who a)loves boats and b)are willing to play referee/den mother to a bunch of crazy boatnuts/perverts that frequent this site. This is not a normal female trait. These are supreme female attributes.<br /><br />Women, for whatever reason, feel we are born with an additional sense that allows men to read minds. Note: We are actually born with a filter which prevents us from seeing the obvious. <br /><br />If an activity promotes your source of income, provides money to do so, and throws in beer and food for free, it sounds more like christmas in August then something to be avoided. Not attending would require an explaination as to why, and if reasonable then, she should not go and don't begrudge SS from attending.<br /><br />Sounds like there is something else not yet said that is creating this situation.

 

[Carphunter]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

.........I would go with the 'smackin.

 

[gaugeguy]

Re: Wife is mad, What do I do?

Originally posted by Carphunter:<br /> .........I would go with the 'smackin.

You need to open a marriage counseling operation...<br /><br />Your logo..."I don't condone wife thumpin, but I know what turns mr. hand into mr. fist."