eeboater
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My brother-in-law (wife's brother) got engaged last year and is getting married this summer. Well, since they announced their wedding, my wife and I have tried to be as supportive as we can as we're both standing up in the wedding.<br /><br />As the year has been progressing on, we've come to find out that the bride is going to have 3 bridal showers. One in Green Bay (where the grooms family is from) one in Kenosha (where she lives now) and one in Madison (where her family is from). <br /><br />My wife is basically planning the Green Bay shower along with her mother. In the planning stages, she chose a date for the shower - and hasn't changed it... ever.<br /><br />The other two showers are being planned by other people - and so far each shower's date has changed twice (total of 4 changed dates.)<br /><br />Well, my wife and I started planning our summer based off the dates they set for the showers. We have several events we were looking forward to that we scheduled specifically to avoid these showers (so she could attend them.) Well, two weeks ago - my wife found out that they changed the Madison shower to June 24th... yep, the weekend of the iboats get together in Wisconsin.<br /><br />This really p*ssed me off. Do I sound greedy when I say this? There are only 5 bridesmaids that they needed to check with to set the date, and they never bothered to ask my wife if we scheduled something for that weekend - she's the grooms ONLY sibling for crying out loud. <br /><br />Once she found out the shower was on the same date as our get together, she felt like she was in a poor position because she had to either tell me she can't meet everyone from this board... or she had to miss the bridal shower. I told her don't worry, go to the shower we'll be fine - there's going to be plenty of opportunities to meet everyone here; only one chance to attend this wedding shower.<br /><br />She ended up calling the gal planning the shower and asked her if they could reschedule it to the weekend before. According to the bride, nothing really had been set in stone yet. Judging by their previous organization methods; I wasn't surprised. Twenty minutes later, my wife was told that the party was changed to the previous week and it wasn't a problem at all.<br /><br />Well... tonight my wife called her brother to invite him and his fiance' to our house for Easter dinner. While they were talking she found out that the shower's date didn't really change... they kept it the same date stating "the other dates simply conflicted with everyones schedule."<br /><br />WTF? Two weeks later we find out in passing that the everyone elses schedule matters but ours - the groom's only sister? Do I have a right to be p*ssed? I know it is their wedding and this is "their summer" but honestly, are we supposed to put our lives on hold for the whole summer because they may change something again?<br /><br />I'm hacked off because they put us in a horrible position to choose between our lives and their lives - forcing us to choose their lives because if we choose our own; we're inconsiderate pricks.<br /><br />Arrgh, this p*sses me off. Needless to say, unfortunately the guys going to the WI-MN iboats get together will not get to meet my wife no thanks to her brother.<br /><br />If they would have just kept everything where it was originally set... we wouldn't be in this situation. It really sucks because now I have a very negative view of this wedding and have zero ambition to help out.<br /><br />Sean
