Delema

[KennyKenCan]

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Hi all,<br /><br />I did not expect such a large response.<br /><br />Thank you all.<br /><br />I don't know what to say.<br /><br />You all have great advise.<br /><br />One thing I noticed is that you all seem to agree that I should go through with at least contacting them, and I have decided that I definitly WILL!<br /><br />I have to admit. I almost called them on Monday night, but I chickened-out.<br /><br />As far as my other kid's go, I have decided not to say anything about this until after I have made contact.<br /><br />Don't want to raise any false hopes for them.<br /><br />I am starting to get a good feeling about this, now that it has had time to sink in, although I am still getting very little sleep over this.<br /><br />In the letter, it stated that they were unavailable on Tue., Wed., and Thu. as they have a job that they have to work.<br /><br />I think that Friday evening is going to be the night that I make that call.<br /><br />Once again, I can't believe the responses from all of you, those replies have all helped me make my conclusion to contact them.<br /><br />I'll keep you all posted as to what happens next.

 

[tylerin]

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KKC, I wish you the best of luck, you won't regret this. It took alot of courage for them to contact you. Relax and have fun on Friday

 

[Link]

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KennyKenCan <br /><br />Even if we don't know each other in real life I'd like you to take the time to read this.. it took me three hours to say this.. nuff said..<br /> <br /><br />Keep always in mind this could be a hoax or scam on thier part. It's cruel but happens. <br /><br />3 Quick true stories from the kids point <br /><br />When I was drafted in the Military I took on my step fathers name out of respect for him raising me. Well 20 years or so later my last remaining Aunt confided to me that my real father had kept in touch with my mother until she married my step father and moved. <br />Hearing that I decieded to look him up and I realized if he had ever tried to find me he couldnt have. When I did find him I was two years to late.<br />Just wasn't meant to be<br /><br />Story two<br />A friend of mine did the same thing. She wanted another kid and got pregnant by a lover.. she told him not to worry about as she would raise him herself..never saw him again...<br /><br />Personal note: I told her she should have at least paid him a stud fee! <br /> <br />17 years later the now young man want to meet and get to know his real father before he goes into the Military next year.. momma didn't count on that! It looks like it is going to turn out ok..<br /><br />3rd story And most important<br /><br />In 1998 I got a call at my shop from a gal I didn't know. Turned out she is my step fathers only child! They had never met. She knew he had died and that I had taken care of him for the last few years of his life (scary)<br />But the most important part is what she really wanted to know!!<br />What type of a person was he?? She didn't want to know fluff.. He was born in X year and died in X year... raised two kids... etc...she already knew that... he married my mother 1958 and knew that he raised us two kids as brothers.. we are not related.. blood wise..but still we consider us brothers.. <br />The second request was for pictures.. she had no pictures of her father... <br />I'm still working on that...

 

[aspeck]

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Kenny, look at all the positives that can come out of this - you meet them, you like them, they like you. Good friendships start. They take you home to meet mom. You remember her, you like her, you fall in love, get married. Now, for the good stuff - you decide this would make a good "Made for TV movie" and write a script and send it to the major broadcasting companies. They get in a bidding war over it and you make millions!<br /><br />Of course, if this all happens, you owe Iboats and your Iboat pals royalties! Don't forget us when you get rich and famous!

 

[Link]

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ROFLOL with aspeck

 

[KennyKenCan]

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Thanks aspeck and Link,<br /><br />Your posts are still helpful.<br /><br />Just one more day till I make contact.<br /><br />If you ever wanted to see a nervous person, right now I could be a "Poster Child" for nervous people!<br /><br />I also seem to be a little anxious too.<br /><br />Also have them giant butterflies!<br /><br />I can't wait to make this call, so that I can get some sleep!!

 

[KennyKenCan]

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Well,<br /><br />Tonight is the night!<br /><br />I am expecting to make this phone call after work this evening.<br /><br />Still have no idea what I'm suppose to say to them, I guess I'll just have to wing it.<br /><br />Still have them big butterflies, and they are really getting restless now.<br /><br />But, I guess I'll find out whats up later, so I'll keep you guys posted.<br /><br />I'll even try to get my computer at home to work, if I can find it under all the crap on my desk there, so you guys won't have to wait all weekend to find out what happened.<br /><br />Thanks again to all who responded, your inputs greatly helped me make this decision.

 

[oddjob]

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Just wing it Kenny...rehearsing will make it ackward and unnatural. If you have a loss of words then ask them about their mother and family, anything. Then you will be able to comment and think of things to say abou t yourself.<br /><br />Good luck

 

[LadyFish]

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FANTASTIC!!!!!<br /><br />This is very admirable of you. I have a good feeling that you will be giving yourself a very precious gift tonight.<br /><br />My best wishes to you.

 

[NOSLEEP]

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Yes , Good luck kenny<br />Just be yourself.

 

[mikeandronda]

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Ok just my 2 cents worth......I knew who my father was. Left when I was 8. It took 20 years until we acctully hooked up again (blame on both sides) And now we are growing closer all the time. Know that it is never too late to build a relationship with your kids and no matter what age most people need a father figure in their life. I hope and pray it all works out for all that are invovled.

 

[tylerin]

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Good luck Kenny, You'll be fine

 

[bay5884]

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Good luck tonight Kenny! This happened to some close friends of my family once, and it couldn't have turned out better!

 

[Elmer Fudge]

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Goodluck Kenny,what you're about to do is indeed honorable.

 

[jim phillips]

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Goodluck Kenny

 

[neumanns]

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You-Hoo...Oh Kenny, were for art thou. Wondering how things went.

 

[tylerin]

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Kenny, just thinking about you this Monday morning. Hope all went well.

 

[KennyKenCan]

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Hi all,<br /><br />Talk about weekends!!!<br /><br />Made my call to Keith and Kevin on Friday night.<br /><br />After talking to them for approx. 2 1/2 hours, about everything that ever happened, I ended up flying down to meet with them.<br /><br />When I got off the plane Sat. morning, it wasn't too hard to find them, just had to look in the double mirror that was in front of me.<br /><br />As it turns out, they were looking for me for the past 7 years, since their mother passed away from brea$t cancer, back in '96, and they did not talk too much about her, but there will be time for that.<br /><br />It was their step-father, George, who encouraged them to try to find me!<br /><br />After about 3 hours together, much to my suprise, it seemed as though we all knew each other forever.<br /><br />I haven't figured how to put that into words yet, so I won't try at this time.<br /><br />Keith is a carpenter, building and renovating homes in the Richmond area, and Kevin is a auto mechanic in Dumbarton Va.<br /><br />They both seem very happy in their jobs.<br /><br />Keith and Kevin are living together in East Highland Park, Va., where they have a nice apartment.<br /><br />Keith is dating a very nice girl, Nancy, and Kevin is, as he say's, "cruising the Babes"!<br /><br />I just could not believe how alike we are!<br /><br />It's frieghtning!!<br /><br />I can't beleive we talked for 2 days.<br /><br />Those 2 days flew by soooooo fast!<br /><br />Don't know what else to say, other than my bag got lost on the flight home, but I didn't really care!<br /><br />Hopefully the airline will find it and return it today.<br /><br />Oh, the boys will be coming to NY for the Christmas Holiday, so I am really looking forward to that.<br /><br />I want to thank everyone here at iboats for encouraging me to pusue this, you guy's were all correct in saying that this would be the best experiance of my life...<br /><br />It was!!<br /><br />Thank you all.

 

[JGREGORY]

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Congrats Kenny. May this be a new beginning on renewing a family. I wish you all the best and continued happiness.<br /><br />What more could you ask for during the Holiday Season.

 

[tylerin]

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Right on Kenny!!.....I had a feeling